Wednesday, June 27, 2007

The last straw

You know I always try be friendly with everyone.......the good guy, the diplomat, the guy who doesnt take things seriously, his sweet he wont mind.....but im done with that. I am through being nice to people and just being stepped on repeatedly because im the good nice guy...and he wont mind. Being nice and honest is a complete waste? I dont know yet maybe you can tell me. Ok you can see this is a ranting post, its been bugging me and well as the topic says this is the final straw.

No matter what happens between people I feel that just as a common courtesy you should atleast greet and inquire if they are ok....you know be polite. But it seems that being polite and having manners especially in the Indian muslim community is a waste. Its not looked at as something to value but as something to take advantage of. If someone is nice you push them as far as you can because you know they won’t retaliate. Having manners is the exception not the norm. Im not saying that im a bastion of civility but atleast I try and refrain from being rude and stepping over people to get ahead in life or just for the heck of it because its fun.

I met some "people" (they are not human) the other day that I havent seen in a long time. Now they not what I would call my friends nor people I would willingly associate with ...wait I would never associate with them even if you threatened to stick a steak knife which is on fire into my eye. So since I knew them as a courtesy a decided to greet and make small talk, the last time ever do that. This one person in particular is the most childish, immature person I have ever come across and I hate the fact that I ever got to know this person. His rich and married and what not but the man is a complete jackass and because im still studying there is something wrong with me. It was as if I was transported to a place where idiots reign........hmmmm or have I always been in this place. And why was I subjected to this fool, because im nice, bleh.

This next paragraph wont flow

You can be the sweetest most caring good guy, that would do anything for a person but that means squat. You can be the guy thats "perfect" that is not like the norm that is different and that treats women with the respect and decency they deserve and it will mean nothing. You can be thoughtful, considerate, and understanding yet you are nothing more than some guy. You will be there for them at a drop of a hat and you will be willing to rip your heart out for them, but it would be a waste of blood and effort. You could do nothing wrong but you will still be kicked in the teeth and left stranded in some vortex of nothingness. Im tired of waiting, im tired of being patient and im tired of never having the chance, or rather im never given the chance.

But as much as I say im tired and contemplate changing and being something that im not...thats the thing I cant be something that im not so I will remain the way I am for that is who I am. People who know me well know that im much more friendlier and bubbly, I talk alot...too much at times.... and well I have broken the last remnants of my shell that shackled me for so long( oh boy now dont I sound all deep and wise).

I will be patient, I will still be the good guy, I will still have my manners and I will still be polite but i am well aware of the fact that

"Nice Guys finish Last"

Kuwabara, Kuwabara....hmmm this doesnt work
The Lone Writer

15 comments:

safiyyamk said...

well...K.... there are people in this world who will appreciate you for who you are... and dont let ANYTHING get you down... just know that there are friends out there for you whenever you need em..

Ahmed said...

I totally know what you mean in this post. But your right, you still have to be you. And really wouldn't you really want to be different?

You just have to be careful who you give your time/attention to. Some people like the ones you mentioned will waste your time, but there are many people that will truly value it and b/c of that, they deserve it much more.

mazozo said...

Hmmm I feel for you dudean i know where you coming from just remeber what i told you the other day about going against yourself its not worth it in the end

We may finish last in this world but what about the next

Further how would you live your life i say rathere be the bigger person always stay true to who you are cosin the end we are right and this to an extent is what matters

Infinium said...

hmmm... dare i say it: "I Told You So"

Well i think i ranted on about it to you for quite a while now, hahaha... but yeah...

I guess at the end of the day, you have to be true to yourself, and you are the GOOD one amongst our ranks, so it wouldnt be worth it for you to give up who you are man...

Question is do you take it with a pinch of salt now when you meet those people again, or do you let it get to you such that it ruins your day??

And i don't think i need to tell you what my solution is to this problem, i mean you witnessed it first hand the other day... lol
(*Insert evil laugh here*)

Muhahahahaha

(Did that sound evil? Hope it did)

But yeah man, i say SCREW THEM ALL, When people behave like that to you, bide your time, because sooner or later, you can turn them into a resource, ready to consume and when your done with them, you just chuck them out like they were yesterdays Garbage, its inevitable...
(*Insert evil laugh here again??? im not sure *lol* *)

well thats my opinion... And yes i now agree with you on that which we spoke off on Monday/Tuesday...

Hmmm... This is not one of my usual cheery,arb, dumb comments... i must be growing up hey??? hahahaha

Damn it i just lost it there, didnt i?

queen_Lestat said...

I agree with Infi...the rest hmmm we'll discuss over virtual coffee.


And yeah the staying true to yourself bit...ditto @ infi again...I told you so too :)

Dew said...

oh man. this is so me but er..in a female form. I'm going through a similar thing where I was tired of being nice because people just didnt appreciate me or took advantage of me and I did try to change but heck, its who we are, we just need to stay away fromall those RATTy people. bleh.

Salma said...

Ooooh,I'm so sorry to know that k.
It's definitely hard to feel you're livin alone in a place where you used to give..and hypocrisy, deceitfulness and rudeness are the in-return.I wanna tell you K that you're not alone here,we all with you,like you as you're.So keep on being yourself K coz we're now in a world which misses showing the true identity of its people who hide it under the devotion masks. So don't care about those who don't care about you and who don't deserve your suffer,despair and pain and be sure that the glass is half full ;))

r said...

The VIP says that good guys do NOT end up last. you trust the VIP dont you? what goes around, comes around..

Muhammad said...

Dude, omg... I know exactly what you're talking about. I've always ranted about how I feel about the Indian Muslim community in South Africa, and I htink we both know there's tons to bitch about, but I have to come to the realisation that the childish ones, who will put people down and try to justify their position are the insecure ones. the ones who will look at us with envy a couple of years from now because we were the ones who took the route they did not.

I've seen with my own eyes guys who hate their money and their families becuase even though they have it, it's not really what they wanted and instead of going to get and achieve whatthey want... they pull this shit on those who are going to get it for themselves.

so I say... Fuck em all. The gossipers (tons of them, everywhere), the bitchers and moaners. I'm going to get mine, don't let anyone stop you from getting yours... those same fuckers dont have the view to see 5 years ahead. they shouldn't even be in your mind. Cast them out, just like they did you.

Peace,

M.

Shiraz said...

Very very true - being the nice guy is like a signal for people to walk all over you, but you just can't help being the nice guy cos thats who you are.

Well the most important thing is that you stay true to yourself and are happy with who you are.

SingleGuy said...

Yep...Nice guys finish last...

Waseem said...

Hail Kman, I wrote on this on my first actual post, but it was more on the not getting girls part, yours is more on the getting walked all over.

It is our nature man, eventually niceness will win out, remember the meek and the geek will inherit the earth, since we are both the earth is ours :D

ZK said...

hmmmm if i had to really say everything on my mind i would be repeating every1elses thoughts and those that we've spoken about...
bottom line you one awesomest (yes my made up wrd again) dude who i'm very thrilled to have met and totally clicked with...
friends come and go some are just mere aquiantances (cnt spell) who we thought were friends till we saw their tue colours...so all i'm trying to say is that the ultimate friend is one who even if you never spoke to will come to help you when you call...hope i'm one of those peoples but i sure as hell will attempt to stop people trampling me coz i knw...
I'm worth it (such a line bwahahahahaha)....

Infinium -> I know who you are...i knw what you been doin *efg* bwahahahahaha

glad i met you guys this weekend...
meet up very soon i hope ;)

k is dis wierd of wat but your wrd verifcation says .... fku (i'll translate here -> FUCK YOU) mad or wat hehehehe

Infinium said...

lol @ zk... dammit, dammit all to hell... how doth you know what i been upto, even i don't know what i been upto lately...

Its an X-Folder... quick someone call Scullder and Mully... i need help... help i tell you...

bwahahahaaha... Yaaaayyyyy... im back to my arb posting and ranting again, i feel so much better now...

Dew said...

and now we know who you are:)

it was really nice meeting everu one.