Abu Hurairah Radhi Allahu Anhu narrates that Nabi Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam said : "A man is on the religion of his friend. Therefore, be careful who you befriend." (Tirmidhi, Abu Dawood)
Commentary :Companionship and environment have an effect upon a person. A person who remains in an itr shop for a while will come out with a sweet smell emitting from his body and clothes. Similarly a person sitting close to fire will be affected with the smoke. Similarly, friends encourage each other towards a similar path. Good company encourages one to do good and evil company encourages evil. It is advisable to be in the company of the pious so that one is encouraged towards good actions
A very good friend of mine sent this to me in an email and I think is a fundamental truth. Its been on my mind for awhile now so I thought I would share it with the rest of you. Its akin to the English saying "Birds of a feather flock together" but I think its more powerful especially with the commentary. A person is judged by the friends they keep, no matter how different you may be from your friends, if they do something that is seen as unbecoming then that stigma is placed on you. It doesn't matter whether its a rumor, people always will use the adage "Where there is smoke there is fire" and always think the worse. Its harsh but one has to be careful with the company one keeps and should know exactly who are friends and who are the "users".
I feel this can be used or adapted to include the person who you choose to spend the rest of your life with. Love only takes you so far, you have to choose a person who will not just give up at the first sign of trouble, someone who will stick through the tough times and someone who will help you grow and reach your full potential. Of course love is important but what about compatibility. (yes r I'm leaning towards compatibility) Someone that will learn to love your little idiosyncrasy's that are not apparent at first. Now this is turning into a tangent, and deserves a blog post on its own.
The Lone Writer